Every now and then we see people discussing their anxieties about life and love. Haven't we methaphorized such heavy words with even the smallest pain we feel. Clearly its an alarming condition in one's life which seems to stay for an epoch. I guess some credit goes to the internet age as well.
I felt the urge to write on it because I've been in a similar situation and I want the people to get a reality check. I'm going to give strong reviews so you may want to discontinue if you are sensitive towards such discussions.
WHAT REALLY DEPRESSION IS?
- As per WHO depression is a common mental disorder, characterized by persistent sadness and a loss of interest in activities that you normally enjoy, accompanied by an inability to carry out daily activities, for at least two weeks.
- In addition, people with depression normally have several of the following: a loss of energy; a change in appetite; sleeping more or less; anxiety; reduced concentration; indecisiveness; restlessness; feelings of worthlessness, guilt, or hopelessness; and thoughts of self-harm or suicide.
- There is a chance that every one in four-person will undergo depression at some time in their lives. Depression is a serious matter of concern and shouldn't be taken as a joke.
So the question arises why is it so trendy nowadays? I guess first and foremost,
LACK OF KNOWLEDGE AMONG PEOPLE
I'll ask openly here, how many times were you dead sure in your life that you were in a depression and discussed it with the people near you rather than posting about it on social media?
Let's be honest, do you know the exact definition of depression, anxiety, insomnia, panic attacks? We are heavily misguided by the trends rising by leaps and bounds about such things that we automatically assume other people's definition of such sensitive cases are true.
It's sad that even now in countries like India there's no proper education system for dealing with mental health. There are health camps set up every year in our schools to get a full body checkup but sadly nothing is done to treat the mental issue which we face at such a tender age.
Stop, take a day and ask yourself is this really what you think it is or you are covering up with those jargons? and what are you doing to spread awareness?
BECAUSE EVERYONE IS HAVING IT MAYBE ITS THE NEW TREND
Seriously is this the new trend?
You know what its been in trend from quite a while. I've been active on social media from almost ten years and I've realised that from the very beginning people started posting sadistic content and memes from there only and it became popular culture because everyone can relate to it and then to rather ostentatiously show off social media skills people adopted such lifestyles.
Don't you hear every other person saying that I'm depressed posting about all this on social media? However some people are so obsessed with it that they really don't care what other person thinks about it they are utterly comfortable with this and are so used to it that their whole timeline is full of all this content however the sad part is that they fail to provide the solution to the problems and keep on consistently posting about it.
Sorry to say but it sounds funny to them(that is what I feel) and they satisfy themselves that this will solve the problem at least for some time.
SOMEWHERE OR THE OTHER WE ARE COMFORTABLE WITH IT
Time for a quick update lets clear all the myths,
distress v/s depression
Suppose a person lets say A has given the paper of IIT-JEE and he failed to qualify the set criteria for passing the exam then he became extremely anxious, he left eating, didn't socialize after that, and started undervaluing himself. No doubt, there was a sheer pressure on him not only of his family's expectations but also of his expectations from himself and he has failed everyone. Now, this scenario is very common among Indian teens but the question is what we do after this?
See, we need to understand that at the first time its clearly a matter of distress and if not taken care of it can advance itself to depression. We need to identify and know the difference between the two. Most of the people tend to commit suicide after such heart-wrenching incidents but is it really worth it? Is your life so cheap that it got sold out by you failing at a single test in your life?
The simple and bitter answer to it is, analyze yourself and ask yourself did you gave your 100% and if you gave are you not happy that you tried? maybe god has a better plan for you or maybe he wants you to do more of what you think you can do!
net freakiness v/s insomnia
Don't deny that you have never used the phrase, 'OH! I'm suffering from insomnia.'
I bet you have, even I say that so often. And, the reason is quite obvious because insomnia = I can't sleep.
- Well actually, anxiety, stress, and depression are some of the most common causes of chronic insomnia. Having difficulty sleeping can also make anxiety, stress, and depression symptoms worse.
- Other common emotional and psychological causes include anger, worry, grief, bipolar disorder, and trauma. What we really tend to do when we can't sleep or do we really wish to sleep even?
We all want to complete that god damn series or its really important to talk to my boyfriend because of the misunderstanding that happened today morning? Isn't it the fact? and you call this insomnia.*sigh!* its not insomnia it's your addiction to the things you are doing which has the authority to preempt your sleep, however, these tasks are non-preemptive (such an irony).
nervousness v/s anxiety
I can give you anxieties dude.
How often do you come across this statement in some or the other person's bio. Guys, do you even know what anxiety is?
Its something similar to losing your consciousness and it might lead to death its the next level of nervousness.
So is that anxiety thing still cool? unpopular opinion: no, not at all. We all tend to get nervous, that stomach discomfort that slightly raised heartbeat that's nervousness.
Agreed to the fact that some people have a weak heart and tend to get a panic attack and anxiety at some serious condition which isn't according to us but can we stop calling it so casually for the sake of its solemnity.
INTERNET IS OVERPOWERED WITH SUCH SPEAK YOUR DEPRESSION OUT THING
It's quite visible that people are constantly posting on social media to speak your heart out things and that is the sole reason people are coming out and saying whatever they feel like. I guess its good upto some extent and thats really helping out the people who need help but somewhere or the other its making us lose our ability to understand the situation and think rationally. Our lives are not a joke that we tell everything about it, to people around us. This is affecting us so badly that we have lost communication with parents, the people who can really help us out through this all.
WE TEND TO GET COMFORTABLE IN ALL THIS
Let's face it we are all lazy beings and we want quick solutions to all our problems in one go. How do you get it?
- Say to yourself that you need help when you failed at a task.
- Don't do anything to solve the problem.
- Post about it on the internet and tell people that you got depression because things aren't working out and you can't work on them because of course, you got depression!
- Watch some youtube motivational videos, read some memes and don't forget to download some really hit quotes on depression from Pinterest and set them as your statuses and profile pictures.
- Say that I'm anxious, insomniac and depressed to every other person you talk to.
- Start believing in that.
- Voila! you are good to go.
Guys, no kidding now. There are some people who really need help and we need to get aware of all that and help the people who really need that.
Depression is not a joke.
Depression is real.
I've been through it and I've seen it all the mental trauma and tendency to take one's life I've done that all and believe me it kills.
It's heartbreaking to be dependent on those anti-depressant pills.
I'm glad that popular faces are coming out and telling their tales of depression and are providing means to help you.
And for God's sake stop making it a trend. It's not COOL. Never was. Never will be.
And if you still feel that you are fighting depression then speak you heart out talk to the person close to you or if you still feel you can't talk about it with them go on for various websites dedicated to helping you or you can text me if you feel like I'll be happy to help. Trust me you are important and you need to realize that.
Here are some links
LIVE LOVE LAUGH- https://thelivelovelaughfoundation.org/
VANDERVALA FOUNDATION- https://www.vandrevalafoundation.com/
Sources: Google, WHO, Pinterest, other persistent webistes on google. I take no credit of the picture, they are all from Pinterest.
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